Archive for September, 2008



SL is for More!

Despite puppets telling us that the internet is for porn and despite my recent blogs, I can state with utter conviction that there IS more to do in SL than sex.

The other day a friend and I went to see Glyph Graves’ exhibit at the Crossworlds Gallery. (Thanks Chestnut for your writeup on this in your blog!) Z and I had a great time. Not only did we spend time viewing Graves’ work, but we went to other floors in the multi-level gallery and viewed work by other artists. I had to run off to another engagement but left Z repeating “I have to have that, Oh – I really like THAT”. LOL. So, tah, dearies! A bit of culture! So SL is for ART!

Later that day I logged in to say hi and A was just about to head off sky-diving.

Selecting a parachute

Selecting a parachute

Some FL info here. I have a very very strong fear of falling. I had a little mishap as a toddler and although I’ve managed to shake the recurrent nightmares of the ground disappearing beneath my feet and me falling and falling and falling, I still really do not like the sensation. I don’t like roller coasters – if forced onto one I close my eyes and do math problems in my head the whole ride!!! I don’t like high, arching bridges where you can’t see the other side of the bridge til you are at the very top. I don’t like jumping off the 5 meter board into the pool – I had waaaaaay too much time to know that I was falling. You get my point. I do NOT like falling.

So when A said “Ahuva, come sky-diving with me!” I immediately said “No!”

Wearing our parachutes

Wearing our parachutes

Now I have flown in SL. That doesn’t bother me. I rode in a sky chair and other sky vehicles in SL, no problem. (I can do that in RL, too.) But deliberately choose to fall? I don’t think so!! But then I said – it’s SL. I can’t get hurt. So I said “What the heck, okay, I’ll come.” And immediately felt my stomach turn over. We went to the airport, got a parachute and went out on the platform. A went over all the rules carefully. He explained that my chute would open almost immediately as it was programmed to open at 100m and we were only at 111m. And then he jumped.
The Platform - 111m high

The Platform - 111m high

I walked to the edge and looked down. Yep – definitely DOWN. I backed up, readied my camera, took a breath and ran off the edge. I had a sharp pain in my chest, my stomach rolled over and for one brief moment I could not breath. And then my chute deployed and i was floating, not falling. And the world steadied and I took pictures and all too soon – I landed. And I realized that I felt great, that it had been fun, that floating was wonderful (flying is floating, not falling!) and that I wanted to do it again! So A and I jumped a few more times, from a higher height. It was fun and enjoyable. And I thought – I could practice running off this platform. Maybe if I practice running off platforms in SL, I will be able to go off the 5m diving board again. Maybe SL could be used for people with phobias and fears and other behavioral problems. So SL is for THERAPY!
Floating!

Floating!

Waiting for the elevator so we can go up and do it again!!

Waiting for the elevator so we can go up and do it again!!

Elevator - Going up!

Elevator - Going up!

Power boost chairs to take us up MUCH higher - 1000m

Power boost chairs to take us up MUCH higher - 1000m

Going up!

Going up!

Freefall without Fear!

Freefall without Fear!

Togetherness

Togetherness

Safe Landing

Safe Landing

Something Light

I’ve been blogging on the serious topics. Time for a light interlude. I want to share pictures of my friends with you. I may not be furry or tiny, but I love when my friends are. They have such fun avatars! Not only do THEY look good, they have fun toys too! And this is also a big “thank you” to my SL friends, with whom I chat and dance and float and party and shop and view art and listen to music!

Sheriff is town!

Sheriff is town!

Dragons are Cuddly!!

Dragons are Cuddly!!

Wings are big at NCI

Wings are big at NCI

Any wings are popular!

Any wings are popular!

Floating chairs, high up in the sky.  Can you see me tucked in the one on the right?

Floating chairs, high up in the sky. Can you see me tucked in the one on the right?

MystiTool

MystiTool. I have this too, even though I don't understand half the things that it does. 🙂 It DOES expand my range for seeing who is around - that much I DO understand!

Pursuing the Subject

Sex. Love. Add fantasies.

My blog on sex and love (Difficult Subjects) has generated fascinating conversations in FL and SL. People really want to talk about these topics. No one wants to go on record and post to my blog (okay – there are two brave souls out there willing to talk about sex publicly) but everyone talks to me “off the record”. 🙂 This is not actually surprising to me. Look around you. What are the number one and two topics in books, magazines, music, visual art, performing art, commercials and news? Exactly. We need air, food, water and love.

We do without air, food and water in SL. (Correction. Without drinking water. I crave water and sand and waves as much in SL as in RL). But we need love. I’m using “love” in a very broad sense here. I mean that we all need a connection. We need to be validated by an other. When people talk to me about love and sex in SL, it often leads to fantasies. SL allows us to explore our fantasies. Things that maybe we never say or do in RL. We shelter behind the pseudo-anonymity of SL (see Botgirl’s blog if you want to understand why I say “pseudo-anonymity”). And as I listen and think and read, it seems to me that there are 2 categories of fantasies.

There is the very obvious category of physical action fantasy. Doing things that you can’t do in RL, or wish you could do in RL. That ranges from sex to surfboarding to horseback riding to shopping to walking and talking. But there is another kind of fantasy – emotional. Many people are yearning for a connection that doesn’t exist for them in RL. Again, this runs the gamut. So I think I’m beginning to get a partial answer to my question “Why cyber?” (LOL please note I have ‘corrected’ my terminology.) It isn’t the cyber per se. It’s the emotional content associated with the act. I suppose one could say – Big Duh, Ahuva. *I* knew that. But obviously it wasn’t clear to me. What I started to hear as people talked to me was that the cyber allowed them to switch their internal emotional paradigm. (Again – not for everyone, and not all the time.) I’m also sure that this has been researched and reported and written up in psychological abstracts. 🙂 This is my blog, however, and I’m allowed to post my discoveries, even if I am coming extremely late to the party! 🙂

There was a newbie last night at the NCI benches (okay – there is ALWAYS a newbie at the NCI benches!! that’s why the benches exist, after all!). He started out by asking what everyone did in RL. Sigh. I listened as everyone answered and told “the truth”. So I said “This IS my RL.” Most ‘oldies’ enjoyed that response. Obnoxious, I know. But for Ahuva – SL IS RL. Then he asked our ages. Again, most people played along, even if being a bit vague. I was still feeling rude so I asked “How old do I look?” (As a good friend pointed out to me – I am only as old as my avatar!) LOL. Of course D, who is always very quick with a funny or sarcastic remark, replied “10”. Hmmm. As I type that, maybe he didn’t mean my age. LOL. I’ll have to ask him if that was a reference to the old Bo Derek movie….. Anyway. Back to my point. If I have one. He also called SL a game. I said that SL is NOT a game. He asked “It’s not?” C jumped in at this pointed and explained that SL is a virtual world, not a game. I had been despairing of this newbie but then he redeemed himself. He at least dropped the word game from that point and accepted the correction. But we shall see.

We are all in SL for reasons. Simple reasons, complicated reasons. Whatever. I am developing another theory. I think that the people who come into SL and immediately start trying to define everyone by their RL aspect are probably people who aren’t going to stay in SL very long. They aren’t going to “get it”. People who come into SL and meet people as they are, and ask about their SL aspect, are going to stay. I have no issue with people who know each other in SL having conversations about RL. That’s not what I mean. (I’m not touching the whole immersion theory stuff. Go read Botgirl and Soph yourself.) I mean that people who come inworld and try to force SL into RL terms may not be best suited for a virtual world. Whereas those people who come in and accept what they see may flourish. And those people may find that their fantasies come true.

Rave Report

Shenlei did it again! Another fantastic party! If I thought I was overwhelmed by fun, music, lights and friends at the Universal Rave, I had no clue. LOL. I spent hours being bombarded by burning skull & crossbones, sparkles, canons, diving orcas, music and friends. Fantastic! In the picture above you can see our lovely hostess, lower left. You can see one of the TWO pirate galleys. You can see the dance ball – black w/ pink skull & cross bones. You can see the blue Dance! sign. You can see wenches and PIRATES!!! I think everyone had a Pirate hat. There were swords and pistols and boots and eye patches. Bottles of rum and yo ho ho! The chat was filled with Yarrrr! and Ahoy! and Avast! and Matey! Everyone partied so no one was forced to walk the plank. 🙂 You can see we are all having a wonderful wonderful time! Thanks Shen!!! Can’t wait for the next one!! (Oh yes everyone – Shenlei has promised another Rave coming soon!)

Pirates!

Pirates!

It's dark, but see if you can see the ship and the canons and the handsome pirate.

It's dark, but see if you can see the ship and the canons and the handsome pirate.

Oops!  Apologies Z!  you are right - my sword WAS stabbing you!

Oops! Apologies Z! you are right - my sword WAS stabbing you!

My Pirate Name

want to know YOURS????? 🙂 (thanks Bailey!!!)

Talk and Party Like a Pirate Day!

Arrrrrr! This IS an international holiday! Talk Like a Pirate Day! You can find it in Wikipedia! You can find it in the news!

But best of all – party with your friends!! I know where I’m going tonight!!! Shengri La’s Piratical Rave! Darcey and I went shopping last night and we are all set!!! Swords and Pistols! Pirate hats! We are sailing the high seas and looking for plunder! But we’ll settle for dancing and having a great time with friends!

Hope to see you all! Or ye’ll be walking the plank! 🙂

Blurring Lines

Yet another confession.  I already admitted that I am totally addicted to SL.  It’s invaded my thoughts whether awake or asleep.  I haven’t had a day in weeks where I didn’t stop in at least briefly.  But now…… I’m very grateful and fortunate that my family supports me in this obsession.  Because I’ve begun writing down SL events in my FL calendar.  Yep, that’s right.  I am now arranging my FL calendar to accommodate my SL calendar.  So far I haven’t cancelled anything FL to attend SL.  But oh was I tempted once!!!!  So now I am putting SL events on the FL calendar in order to avoid conflict. LOL.  I’ve come a very long way from June 26, haven’t I???

And another mini-observation.  There’s nothing like a post about sex and love to increase your readership.  LOL.  I have a very small but loyal contingent of readers.  I very carefully did NOT tag my post Difficult Subjects.  After my Blogger’s Remorse experience, I resolved never to put anything suggestive or explicit in my headings or tags. But somehow even without tags word spread. Looking at my readership stats – more than double my typical daily readers. Hits coming in from new locations. Fascinating. We are ALL experts on love and sex. We all have opinions. We all know the truth. Love is vital to all of us. It’s a compulsion. I’m willing to bet that somewhere it is hard-wired in us: the need to talk about love, being loved, loving. I’m not being facetious – I’m very serious. Despite being an expert in the subject myself 🙂 , I learn so much from what other people write.

I really love learning about people. I love seeing what moves us, what energizes us. I love trying to understand why we do what we do. The blog and SL are a wonderful opportunity for me to meet and talk with others who find people as fascinating as I do. Thanks to you all!


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