Life Lesson #43

My Nana used to say that every cloud had a silver lining. That’s the kind of saying that can make you crazy, but often there is much truth in it. Many years ago I suffered a life tragedy – the sort of thing no one ever expects and yet…. it happens. I can say now with hindsight that there was more than one silver lining to that particularly dark and miserable cloud. One ray of light was the therapist I met. It took years (literally) but I finally learned much ( a lot? most? some?) of what Howard was trying to teach me. Remind me some day to tell you about the car example. *grin*

I’d been raised (unintentionally) to be angry. I’d been raised (unintentionally) to be jealous. I’d been raised (unintentionally) to be fearful. Guess what? You can unlearn that kind of behavior. I’m going to credit Howard, but I’m also going to credit my long-time manager Eric.

It does NOT diminish me to praise or credit others.

Not only do they feel good, but YOU will feel good as well when you praise others. Instead of diminishing you, it actually inflates your reputation. Yep. People see you as confident, capable and honest. Do not take this to mean that you should never take credit for your work. No, no, no. But…. if someone else helped you, acknowledge them. If someone else contributed a part, recognize it. You are not diminished. Quite the contrary. You grow. You are a person with whom others wish to collaborate. You are a person who recognizes and utilizes good ideas.

Yes, I’m sure you can scoff. I’m sure you can point out examples where “somebody done ya wrong”. Get over it. Move on. Share the spotlight. The more you shine on others, the more the light comes back to you.

*grin* Life lesson #43. Really.

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There's not much to say about me. I discovered SecondLife by accident, wandered in, and decided I wanted to stay. This blog was a chronicle of my adventures and misadventures in SL. It also includes stray thoughts that occur to me as a result of my time in SL. Both I and my avatar are female. We both love water and the beach and gardening and parties and hanging out with friends. Updating this after quite some time. I haven't appeared in SL in many many months (probably over a year by now) but SL has remained in my thoughts. I do miss my SL, but at least I still have contact with some of my friends from there. In the meantime.... this blog has evolved to be about my RL adventures. :) Nowhere near as risque as my SL but I do keep busy. I still like all the things listed above. I didn't have any cats in SL (only ducks and a panda) so my cats feel that they should play starring roles in my posts. :) I didn't do much eating IN SL although certainly food and drink accompanied me in RL while I roamed inworld. Cooking and baking have become more fun and interesting once I redid my kitchen. That renovation took longer and cost more than if I'd done it virtually, but I'm thrilled to have a tangible new kitchen! I hope you like food and drink as well! Thanks for reading!

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